This third article focusses on something which happens to all of us – failure (want to check out article 1 and article 2 again? Click away!). In a sense, we’ve lost the art of failing successfully. Don’t misunderstand, I don’t mean that we should aim for failure. Rather, we should recognise that failure is an integral part of growth and attaining our goals. If we can’t fail successfully, then we won’t grow, learn and ultimately innovate successfully. On this point, I wish to introduce Marlie Holtzhausen of the James 1:27 Trust (check......
In the first article of this series (check out the first article for details here), I mentioned that there is a distinct difference between extreme cases of resilience (for instance, surviving on a rubber lifeboat at sea for 3 months) and micro-resilience. Micro-resilience is the ability to handle the little bumps of life. You know, those surprises that do not kill you, but over time can seriously dampen your spirit. To continue with our own story of micro-resilience after our Toyota Corolla was stolen. It’s about a month after the incident, and......
We, humans, are exceptional creatures. We have accomplished many incredible things in a very short space of time… We have studied, utilised and basically mastered many aspects of electricity in little over 300s since Benjamin Franklin first started studying static and lightning in the 1700s. Now, electricity is so commonplace, that we are shocked to hear of peoples who have missed the electrical revolution of society completely! We’ve placed men in space and even sent a few to the depths of the sea (which still remains largely unexplored, by the way!). Modern......
What if you are the toxic person in your relationships? By Jan Niemand The word “toxic” as it applies to relationships, people and even workspaces or organisations has increased dramatically. In the 1990s, it seems like everybody has become aware of just how bad some people, relationships or organisations can become… Take a look at the increase of the use of “toxic person” in the last two decades in literature by clicking on this link. Defining this toxicity is no easy matter either. Official definitions range from “dysfunctional relational dynamics” to “psychopathy” depending......
Many clients come to me due to some crisis in their lives – being stuck, frustrated, angry, or just plain miserable with a situation or even life in general. There are various coaching approaches, models and methods that we can use depending on the situation. But ultimately, the key component of any coaching relationship is that you and not the coach arrive at your own solutions. Why? Because it’s your life. You’re the expert. But what happens when you solve the original crisis that led you to consider coaching? Do you and......